NARCISSISM: Instead of etiquetting..

Instead of dealing with the diagnosis and classification of mental health professionals, it would be much more productive and better for us all to spend time improving the already widely spread technique of helping people with life problems – psychotherapy, understanding another human being and, of course, empathy. It does not matter whether one is diagnosed or not, it is important to help the person adequately and to make the change the client wants for themselves.

We cannot know what is best for each person, we can only offer our skills that we have mastered over the years to reduce the suffering that a person is experiencing. By diagnosing a person, we lose the authenticity of the personality of the client sitting across from us. When you are diagnosed with a friend or partner, you lose sight that the other person does not deserve to be seen through a particular label but to understand the context of the person and understand it appropriately. The ultimate goal is to put yourself in another person’s corner, activate empathy.

When we accept someone as a human being with all the flaws, virtues and weaknesses, it has an incredible impact on the other person. A person feels relaxed, does not have to censor or serve the truth in a certain way. The person feels accepted and it is only when we accept the person that we can help the person to help themselves. Resistance occurs when one person feels or experiences that they are not accepted by another person and all their efforts are triggered in resistance and spite because they are not properly understood.

When we surpass some of the condemnation of another person and when approached directly with a great deal of empathy and understanding, the person seems to open up on his own. You must have felt that many times in your life or that you have opened up to someone and you do not know why or that someone has opened up to you who you do not know so well. People simply have emotions and feelings and every emotion sends us a specific message. In such situations, we feel very safe to bring up all the problems that are troubling us and to acknowledge something that we have never acknowledged to anyone.

We need to work on that, we need to dedicate ourselves to it as much as possible, and to diagnose other people we will soon realize that there is no point. Diagnosis and labels increase us by the triple mileage we have to go to get to the very essence of a person. We believe that the limit is emphasizing the moment when a person inflicts pain (mental or physical) on another person without his or her will. This is where the border is stressed, and this is a big problem when one has the desire to consciously inflict pain on another.

A lot of effort, energy and torment is exhausted if we approach a person with a stereotype, prejudice or potential etiquette of a mental disorder that we hide in our pocket just in case.

If someone is not good for us – etiquette. Unless someone understands us, etiquette. If someone doesn’t like us – etiquette. If someone doesn’t listen to us – etiquette. If someone is not what we want them to be – etiquette. And so on. Let’s change that circle together and shorten the unnecessary mileage to reach another person.


The rigid use of diagnosing other people can reduce empathy for the same people we diagnose (Lebowitz & Ahn, 2014)
Acceptance. Understanding. Empathy.


If you are intrigued by this article, we recommend you to read the following article: The Medicalization of Mental Disorder : Conrad, P., & Slodden, C. (2013), Handbook of the Sociology of Mental Health

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